Jade plant (Crassula ovata) |
Shasta and Hobbs playing in the park
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Sharing the process of BEing Rooted initially at Refuge; transplanting to Santa Fe, NM and reRooting, then back to California and reRooting in Cotati.
Jade plant (Crassula ovata) |
Shasta and Hobbs playing in the park
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This Sunday past we had a gathering in Delano Park across the street from my house. We came together for a Celebration of Life, Dwight's life, that ended on July 17, 2022, at 0655. His lungs failed from the effects of living with parents who smoked as well as his first wife. The entire time I knew Dwight his lungs had been an issue but it was not until March of this year the pulmonary function tests identify both COPD (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease) and emphysema. Within 6 weeks his ability to take his regular everyday 2 mile walk with Shasta deteriorated into first a mile then a half mile. The first two weeks of May he was hospitalized for blood clots in his two lower lobes of his lungs and pneumonia in an upper lobe.
Luckily being a retired registered nurse I had the knowledge and skill to care for Dwight here at 35 Page Street. I did so right up to his taking his last breathe. In the early morning hours I called Katie and Michael in San Francisco. They arrived around 2 a.m. and stayed until Dwight's body was taken to Parent-Sorensen Crematory in Petaluma. Leigh had done a stellar job of researching the very best one. I thank her for that from the bottom of my heart. Everyone I came in contact with were ever so kind, gentle and concerned about me.
I believe caring for Dwight and enduring his death has been/is the most difficult thing I have ever done in my life. I am so fortunate to have dear friends who are supporting me as well as Katie and Leigh who are both grieving the loss of their dad. So as a way to honor their dad and support their process they planned and executed a wonderful Celebration of Life. Some 20+ friends and family were in attendance sharing their stories of Dwight. My opening is below:
Flowers my cousin Shelley brought from her garden. |
"35 years ago this coming Thanksgiving I met Dwight. HIs friend, Judy (thank you! Judy) invited Dwight to my friend Helen’s home for Thanksgiving dinner which was timed for after I got off work at 3:30.
Dwight and I seemed to instantly connect. Dwight had recently left his wife which was a red flag. He was just beginning to adjust to a single life while I had been living singularly for over 17 years.
Dwight was committed to providing a home for his youngest daughter Leigh who came to live with him. He often spoke of “not throwing the baby out with the bathwater.”
We found a way forward and once we took Leigh to college in Oregon we began living together . . . splitting our time between my place in Sebastopol and a flat we rented in the San Francisco Mission District. Eventually as many of you know we bought a place South of Sebastopol on Hessel Avenue. We lived there for almost 25 years before relocating to Santa Fe, New Mexico. Dwight LOVED living in this city with the same world class entertainment as San Francisco.
Alas, my body did not like the some 7000’ elevation. So once again we packed up all our belongings returning once again to Sonoma County. We bought our home in Cotati. I am so happy we had pretty much settled in before Dwight was hospitalized in early May for two weeks.
Soon after returning home midMay his lungs began showing signs of failing. Growing up with parents who smoked as well as his first wife he was diagnosed with COPD and emphysema this past March.
I felt so fortunate to have the knowledge and skills to care for him at home. His last two months were a gift of time . . . there was just him, me and Shasta. We had the opportunity to connect in a way previously impeded by our busyness of making 35 Page Street our home. AND now this house feels fo empty without Dwight. The pervasive fog wrapping in and around me is throughly protective right now.
Thank you! each and everyone of you who have come to celebrate Dwight’s life."
People knowing Dwight in his various parts of his life who shared their experience(s) of Dwight was so wonderful and heartwarming. The common thread was how he was so present and listened not fearful of discussing any topic the speaker brought up with him. Like me, Dwight was a One on the Enneagram and our "virtue" is serenity which Dwight exemplified throughout his life BEing a "perfect" One.
I am hopeful once this protective fog lifts, I can begin the grieving process with an often emotional releasing belly
and my passed mother's birthday. My mother was born on July 4, 1914. I remember as a child making and decorating her birthday cake with red, white and blue.
My mother is the second from the right. The others are her sisters: Donna (left), Arlene, Eva and Martha to my mom's left. |
Said uncle is on the right with his brothers Harley (far left) and P.C. in the middle. |
Today I made no birthday cake, rather we went to the Farmers Market in Sebastopol where we stocked up on fresh food for the week. All the wonderful vendors at this particular market offer the best options. Since I do not have a garden yet, I am so grateful these farmers grow such fabulous organic, nutrient dense food: cauliflower, chard, Early Girl tomatoes, eggplant, fennel, Frida spicy mix delicious addition to salads, lettuce, Romano beans and zucchini.
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Blenheim apricots, figs and plums |
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June Pride peaches |
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String of Pearls for my all time favorite hanging apparatus. Now to find the "perfect" window in which to display this fun plant where it will thrive. |
I am just ecstatic to now have a mature Santa Rosa plum tree in my backyard. |
Ah to be alive
on a mid-September morn
fording a stream
barefoot, pants rolled up
holding boots, pack on,
sunshine, ice in the shallows,
northern rockies
Rustle and shimmer of icy creek waters
stones turn underfoot, small and hard on toes
cold nose dripping
singing inside
creek music, heart music,
smell of sun on gravel.
I pledge allegiance.
I pledge allegiance to the soil
of Turtle Island
one ecosystem
in diversity
under the sun --
With joyful interpenetration for all.
GARY SNYDER
Condor perched atop of the bluff of the
Colorado River running through the Grand Canyon.
I for one am experiencing enormous grief about the human caused climate catastrophe. The wildfires in California has disrupted the condors habitat leaving 9 adults missing. These magnificent birds are now fewer.
The California condor (Gymnogyps californianus)
is a New world vulture,
the largest North American land bird.
This condor became extinct in the wild in 1987
(all remaining wild individuals were captured),
but the species has since been reintroduced to
northern Arizona and southern Utah
(including the Grand Canyon area and Zion National Park),
the coastal mountains of central and southern California,
and northern Baja California.
Although other fossil members are known,
it is the only surviving member of the genus Gymnogyps.
The species is listed by the IUCN* as critically endangered.
May 2, 2019 by Dr. Roger Lederer
in Ornithology: The Science of Birds
*International Union for Conservation of Nature
Millions of birds, and a disproportional number of swallows, have been found dead. Bird experts are puzzled and working on figuring out what happened. The most recent explanation is that the migratory birds in California were forced to leave before they readied their bodies for the lengthy flight South. Then the cold snap happened in the Southwest as they were flying through so no insects were available hence birds were literally dropping from starvation. Their carcasses were mere skeletons.
near the Point Reyes National Seashore, California.
Earth mother, star mother,
you who are called by
a thousand names,
May all remember
we are cells in your body
and dance together.
You are the grain
and the loaf
That sustains us each day,
And as you are patient
with our struggles to learn
So shall we be patient
with our struggles to learn
So shall we be patient
with ourselves and each other.
We are radiant light
and sacred dark
- the balance -
You are the embrace that heartens
And the freedom beyond fear.
Within you we are born
we grow, live, and die -
You bring us around the circle
to rebirth,
Within us you dance
Forever.
STARHAWK
Focusing on balance as we deal with all the emotions swirling around and in each of us, may we breathe deeply and have a wonderfully releasing
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Maybe the Queen Palms planted by our neighbors
are attracting the Hooded Orioles to our neighborhood?Perhaps, since these orioles prefer to build their loose nests in palm trees. |
Heirloom Italian zucchini freshly harvested at MuRefuge. |
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The crossquarter day, known as Lughnasadh or Lammas in the Celtic calendar, ushered in Fall on August 1, so as we embrace the changing of seasons, may each of us enjoy a grand
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